tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6065576345622223007.post5043819798747383866..comments2023-10-31T09:13:27.144-07:00Comments on The Cat Box: Stalkers and Why They SuckCatherine Viberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01354073276671196477noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6065576345622223007.post-65066282349483461292010-11-18T04:11:53.458-08:002010-11-18T04:11:53.458-08:00Hi Jen! Yes, I was waiting for your comment here ...Hi Jen! Yes, I was waiting for your comment here because I know that you know that I know... Thanks for understanding, dear friend. It's just so unnerving to have someone so obsessed over you. Even if he truly means that he just wants to be friends, I just don't want someone knocking at my boundaries every few months hoping he can change my mind! Anyway, it's a work in progress, and we shall see how it all pans out. Hopefully it will just drift away and he will recover to the point of realizing that he doesn't even need or want to communicate with me, and he can just move on into his life well and recovered.Catherine Viberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01354073276671196477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6065576345622223007.post-9175837980474273432010-11-17T05:45:16.652-08:002010-11-17T05:45:16.652-08:00(I can't sign in, ugh!)
Cat, I am so sorry th...(I can't sign in, ugh!)<br /><br />Cat, I am so sorry that you have had to deal with this--for so long! You know I know something about this, and it's an awful feeling. He is obsessed and it's important to remember that you're not dealing with a rational person. No appeal to reason or understanding will work. He doesn't understand. He thinks you don't understand. You know, how wonderful he is. The sad part, for him, is that he may in fact have some wonderfulness in him but he'll never know what it's like to have someone discover that on her own, to actually want to be with him of her own accord, to not have to try to foist himself on a woman. Oh well, not your problem. Your problem is feeling safe given his continued and unwanted presence in your life. I would not hesitate to contact the authorities. You have ample proof. And perhaps you could let him know about your large dog and mastery of firearms.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />JenJennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6065576345622223007.post-28700528090696098992010-11-15T13:06:03.845-08:002010-11-15T13:06:03.845-08:00Thanks for that Christopher, and a big hello for i...Thanks for that Christopher, and a big hello for it has been a long time since I've 'seen' you! <br />It's amazing how little the entire thing bothers me until he writes again, and then I'm just really irritated. I suppose that is the point to forgive, let go, and continue to not engage with him. You are perfectly right, he is not 'well' in spirit and it is wrong to expect that he will ever change. That magic idea is pretty cool tho ;-). Thanks for taking the time here Christopher, I really appreciate your words and point of view. (Manly point of view?) Hugs...Catherine Viberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01354073276671196477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6065576345622223007.post-35598017810515522492010-11-15T12:44:33.110-08:002010-11-15T12:44:33.110-08:00As for your equanimity, continued spiritual work i...As for your equanimity, continued spiritual work is called for. Some say there are no spiritual mistakes. I tend to believe that, though in the mundane world where our souls meet across material lines there are many. Thus while he should go away, the fact of this work for you is probably precise to your spiritual need.<br /><br />I don't see how he can stalk if he is not failed in spirit. Thus he is in error or in sin, if you will. You cannot then sling spiritual arrows as if he will respond out of wounds that you give him because he cannot notice them without a prior tremendous spiritual recovery.<br /><br />Magic can be used to aim power at the insensate soul and drive such a one away basically against his will, though actually it happens through giving that soul a new illusion to follow instead of the old one that is causing you grief. Thus you drawing boundaries is not enough. You have to generate a push in the spirit realm. These sorts of things have never worked out well in the legal realm. In earlier times it was of course a matter of personal honor between males, if not your lover or husband, then a brother or father. <br /><br />It has always been understood that a certain kind of man cannot rise above himself in this area. But a woman of power can handle a man like this. At root, the needed power is the source that fuels forgiveness, but forgiveness as a thrust of power is not easily recognized as the kind of warm fuzzy thing we think of more commonly.<br /><br />The point is if you don't make peace with your own need to forgive in this area, you cannot have the power you need to thrust this man forcibly away from you, and if you can forgive in this area than you will shapeshift from your current close and vulnerable state as you appear to him to an armed and distant amazon who wounds him whenever he tries to approach.<br /><br />As for you, except for the forgiveness, you will not feel much different because the power will be highly focussed on this man and not so spread out changing everything unless you want it to. You might want that.christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04201537517464996231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6065576345622223007.post-26890701597198507072010-11-15T11:24:50.911-08:002010-11-15T11:24:50.911-08:00Gaaa, Karen I answered you yesterday but apparentl...Gaaa, Karen I answered you yesterday but apparently blogger ate my comment! Anyway, I think the FBI is the next step, as they handle things across state lines. But yes, I'm going to do that for sure. I'm glad he lives across the country...Catherine Viberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01354073276671196477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6065576345622223007.post-23665960613620099172010-11-14T15:33:17.072-08:002010-11-14T15:33:17.072-08:00Oh, God, Cat! How close does this guy live? I don&...Oh, God, Cat! How close does this guy live? I don't want to frighten you anymore than you probably are, but I'd be scared sh**less! I would contact someone in the police force to see if there isn't something more they can do. Be careful!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12003379181294550035noreply@blogger.com